Communal Work
Much of what I discuss on here is about different ways to connect with your higher self to live out your purpose and live in your power. But none of that is possible if you are working solo. I know, I probably should have mentioned that from the beginning. All of this work can be fruitful and does allow you to grow spiritually but that growth can only go but so far when you are doing it alone. Self-mastery is about learning who you are and that learning requires others to be able to actually implement the TRUE work. We do not live on this planet alone. We are surrounded by people. It is through relationship that we are able to enhance our spiritual work and live to the fullest of our highest and greatest good.
I used to keep my spiritual work secluded, only allowing a very, very small number of folks to bear witness to the practices I was doing and the magic that I was creating. And while that served me for a time I plateaued for many years, unable to really get to the core of any effective change. It wasn’t until I was in community with others, sharing my journey and opening myself up, that I was truly able to move forward in my work and grow in ways that I was not able to when I did the work alone.
Relationships are often scary spaces. They are spaces where we have experienced some of our greatest pain and trauma. Opening up and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with other people is no small feat. And this is what the work entails. It thrives in community. Consider this practice that I’m about to share with someone that you trust and you know will not judge or criticize you.
Ask the person to be your partner in your spiritual work. If you’re not sure how you want them to be or show up for you, you can take some time to formulate what that can look like for you and share it.
Share with them what you are working towards and the support that you would like from them.
Lay out a plan for how long you would like them to be your spiritual work partner and see if this is a commitment that they would be able to handle.
Formulate agreements between you and your partner to establish how communication will flow, what styles are preferred and how to handle any issues of friction.
Coordinate check-ins to discuss how you are feeling, any barriers that you may be facing or thoughts/ideas you are playing around with.
Make a list of ways that you would want them to hold you accountable when it comes to any shadow work (the hard stuff).
Create a gratitude practice that you can do to show your partner how much you appreciate them being there and walking along this journey with you.
To be in community takes practice. I am learning that more and more. And the way that we can really learn how to be in community with each other and grow together is by jumping in and doing the work together. Making mistakes, taking accountability, learning to love and doing it again and again.